Surviving a Narcissistic Relationship

From Brokenness to Restoration

I never thought I would find myself in the middle of a narcissistic relationship. I was so love bombed that I couldn’t see the red flags. I didn’t pause to seek God’s will because the idea of a “happily ever after” felt so enticing. Deep down, I feared that if I walked away, I would never find love again.

At first, it was intoxicating, everything seemed perfect. But then the shift happened. Suddenly, the very things that made me unique, the very qualities that were once celebrated, became a problem. I wasn’t enough. I was flawed. The silent treatments came. The withholding of affection became normal. The intimate things I had shared in confidence were later used as weapons against me.

I was miserable mentally, emotionally, and physically. I felt like I was fading away. The only thing that kept me from completely breaking was prayer. Even when I didn’t have the strength to fully believe, I kept the faith that God was still near.

And He was.

In His infinite grace, God pulled me out of that situation. He reminded me of His love when I felt unworthy. He restored my identity when I couldn’t even recognize myself in the mirror. I still struggle at times. I still get triggered. But instead of living in defeat, I live in gratitude. God has shown me His restoration power, and He is helping me reclaim myself in Him and rediscover who He made me to be.

The Bible says in Psalm 34:18, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” I am living proof of this. Even in my brokenness, God never left me. He turned my pain into purpose, and my suffering into strength.

Today, I no longer see that relationship as my destruction I see it as my classroom. It was painful, but it taught me to fully depend on God, to seek His will above my own desires, and to trust that His plan for my life is always greater than anything I could imagine.

Prayer

Heavenly Father,

Thank You for being my refuge in times of pain. Thank You for carrying me when I was too weak to stand. Lord, I pray for anyone who is in or recovering from a toxic relationship wrap them in Your peace and remind them that they are loved, chosen, and never alone. Heal the wounds left behind, restore their confidence, and remind them of the beautiful identity they have in You. Help us to walk boldly in freedom, not bound by fear or insecurity, but rooted in Your truth. Thank You for turning ashes into beauty and brokenness into testimony.

In Jesus’ name,
Amen